Ohhh Santa. He’s holly, jolly and best of all he gives us presents!! So are we the worst parents ever for not promoting Santa this Christmas? Before you call me a grinch keep reading!
When we were expecting our first child, someone asked, What are you going to do about Santa? Will you tell your children who he is? Neither of us had particularly negative experiences with Santa growing up. I honestly can’t even remember when I found out he wasn’t real. That being said, I don’t think my parents made a BIG deal out of him. I also had an older sister who most likely told me he wasn’t real at an early age. I believed whatever she said! HAHA
So then why wouldn’t we tell our kids about Santa? There are a few reasons for this.
First, we don’t want our children to focus on presents. Christmas is so much more than opening gifts on Christmas morning. Don’t get me wrong I love finding the perfect gift and seeing smiles on my family’s face when they open it! But we don’t want to feed into the “it’s all about me” attitude. “What am I getting this year!?”
To counteract this we intentionally added a few new Christmas traditions. First, we filled boxes for Operation Christmas child. Our daughter went with me to shop for the gifts. Now I have to be honest, she did not have the best attitude. She was moaning and groaning because she didn’t get anything on the shopping trip. This is the exact reason we need to continue it every year!!
We also added an Advent calendar. Each day we read, craft or sing. I try to find things related to the birth of our Savior and we find ways to share kindness with others.
Second, we want the focus to be on Jesus. It’s so easy to forget the true meaning of Christmas and get wrapped up in consumerism. This even happens to me as an adult. I miss the true wonder of His love and focus on temporary things. We pray our children will come to know Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior. And this starts with us. If we don’t share His love with them, how will they know it?
Lastly, this may sound silly, but we don’t want some imaginary character getting credit for our love and presents! Our daughter has really enjoyed wrapping gifts for her daddy and grandparents. It’s been a good thing for her to experience the joy of giving.
I also don’t like the idea of lying to our kids and having them find out one day the very thing they loved about Christmas isn’t real.
Why We Don’t Tell Our Kids About Santa
Christmas is still magical and our kids are still SUPER excited about the day.
Believe it or not you can have a wonderful Christmas without Elf on the Shelf or Jolly Old St. Nick.
Now we aren’t completely eliminating Santa and we certainly aren’t judging people who believe in Santa. But we made the decision as a family to intentionally shift our focus to Jesus’ birthday this Christmas.
So do you tell your kids about Santa? What are some ways you share the true meaning of Christmas with your kids?