Proverbs 31 Woman – Family or Career?
Recently, I have been thinking about women and the challenges of being a woman in today’s world. We have all types of pressures…..the world tells us to be skinny, to be pretty, to make a difference, to keep a clean house, to raise a family, to be a strong woman, etc. etc. etc. But how can you do ALL of these things well?
I recently started a new job and as mentioned in a previous post, it felt great to get back to work and feel ‘smart’ again. It feels good to work hard and be recognized for it (through praise or a paycheck!). When you are a ‘stay-at home mom’ you don’t necessarily get these things and it can sometimes feel dissatisfying. This summer I had the chance to stay at home and although I don’t have kids I found a million things to do to keep myself busy. And I LOVED IT!!! (just as much as I love my job). It felt so good to make a dinner from scratch and see the big smile on my husband’s face after eating it. Although I may not receive praise or a paycheck for it, I feel satisfied when I take care of my husband (making his lunch, doing his laundry, etc.). I feel important when I do these things. Although not in the same way as my job, I still feel ‘smart’ when I get a great deal at the store, make a fantastic healthy dinner, or make the house look CLEAN!
I am writing this to express my thoughts, but to also get advice. To me it seems like you have to pick one or the other. I believe you can be good at both things, but I’m taking about being GREAT, EXCELLENT, SUPERB! Basically, I am having a VERY hard time describing and thinking how you can be GREAT at what you do (job/career) and a GREAT wife, mom, etc. Because my job is in education I often feel like my job is my ministry. I have access to tons of kids and I feel I can shine the light Jesus has given me on my coworkers, students, etc. I want to be the BEST at this and I want to make a difference in other’s lives. However, I noticed that when I become consumed with this things start to slip at home. The shelves are often empty (no food), the house is dirty and dusty, and the laundry starts to pile up.
I don’t think there is a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ decision. If you choose career or family or both. But I want to be intentional about my choice and I want to follow the call God has placed on my life. I also pray that He would give me the desires of my heart. If he wants me to stay at home when we do finally have kids, then I want that to be my desire.
What are your thoughts on this? When I read Proverbs 31 it sounds like she does have it all! A business and a family. Wow, being a woman is tough!!