This past week I attended a moms group at my church and the presenter talked about perfection. Especially around the holidays people have a desire for everything to be just right. I want the perfect tree, the best Pinterest inspired decorations and of course a well behaved toddler. When the speaker was talking I was found myself thinking ‘I sometimes have this desire for perfection’; Where I want everything to go according to plan. MY plan to be specific. But is that what the Christmas spirit is all about?
The speaker said one thing that really struck me. She said (I’m paraphrasing) being real can help someone, being fake helps no one. Wow! I think that statement is so true. Sometimes admitting we don’t have it all together can be more powerful then pretending everything is perfect. We can share and relate to each other if we are being honest with one another.
When I get home I thought more about this. I believe there are two sides to this perspective. One being you share every bad thing that is happening in your life. The other being you share only the good. So which side do I choose? For me, I think the answer is somewhere in-between.
What are your thoughts on this? I don’t want people to view my blog and think my life is perfect. It isn’t. But at the same time I don’t want people to read my posts and think wow that’s depressing or leave feeling discouraged. How do you find a balance in this situation? I want to share the joys in my life with my friends and family, but at the same time I don’t want it to hurt someone else or give them the wrong impression.
This is a difficult situation to navigate and I want to be prayerful about the experiences (good and bad) I share with others. My prayer is that God would use my life for His glory and allow me to encourage others even in my failures. I also want to let go of the desire for perfection. For God’s will to rule in my life I need to give up my control and allow Him to order my steps. This year for Christmas I want my focus to be about sharing God’s love and reminding others around me of His unending love.
What about you? Do you find yourself striving for things to be perfect? Should we be more open about our failures with everyone or only share these things with close friends? What is your focus this Christmas season?
Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. 2 Corinthians 12:9