I’ve had this conversation with a few of my friends recently and I can’t help, but think other people are dealing with this as well. Many people are on Facebook and sometimes it’s a wonderful thing. You can keep in touch with old friends and stay connected with multiple people at the same time. However, there is a temptation to scroll through Facebook and start comparing yourself. Does this ever happen to you?
I’ve talked with my friends about how Facebook can portray a false sense of reality. Of course people post the BEST pictures of themselves, the highlights from their vacation and the adorable photos of their babies. And if you are caught writing something that resembles reality you may be deemed as ‘too negative.’ I’m guilty of this myself. This is hard for me to admit, but I sort of like getting comments and likes on Facebook. I mean don’t we all like praise?
However, sometimes I start to question my motives and I feel guilty. I don’t want to hurt someone else by sharing my highlight reel with the world. Trust me there are many times when my life is far from perfect. Izzy does cry and sometimes I do too. I just don’t share this publicly.
I remember when my husband first graduated from medical school and many people I knew said “Isn’t it great your husband is a doctor, now you can buy whatever you want.” Yes there many positive and wonderful things that come from having a doctor in the family. At the same time there are many sacrifices that most people don’t see. Two years ago my husband had to work on Christmas day. He is often exhausted when he works on the wards and will fall asleep right after dinner. Many doctors are also in a lot of debt after medical school and don’t get paid well during residency. Which means yes, we are on a strict budget. But again people may not realize these things and may base my life off of the pictures I share.
I’ll also admit that I sometimes play the comparison game myself. It’s a dangerous thing to do and almost instantly you can feel like you aren’t enough and you are doing everything wrong. When this happens I need to remind myself of the truth I hold in my heart. So I grab my Bible and recite the following verses:
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14 (NIV)
But you are not like that, for you are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light. 1 Peter 2:9 (NLT)
But you belong to God, my dear children. You have already won a victory over those people, because the Spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world. 1 John 4:4 (NLT)
What do you do when you feel yourself playing the comparison game? I’d love to hear how you deal with this matter. Suggestions on staying grounded are welcomed! My prayer is that you would know who you are in Christ. I want to share this article from Joyce Meyer with you – Knowing Who I am in Christ. My identity is in Christ and sometimes I need a reminder. I’m not seeking the approval of the world, but approval from the creator of it.
How do you deal with Facebook? Do you ever struggle with comparing Facebook versus Real Life?